NO, DON'T "LET THEM" - PART II

Jul 30, 2025

This is Part II of my critique of the "Let Them Theory". You can find Part I in the previous post of this Newsletter.
Today we widen the lens to interrogate the (very weak) structural foundations of the book and, more in general, expand a number of consideations to the self-help genre. We also sketch an alternative, different path, one that rejects disengagement and dares to embrace the uncomfortable work of relational courage.

Summaries of this essay will be published on both my Substack page and on my LinkedIn Newsletter.

Access and download below Part II

NO, DON'T "LET THEM" - PART II

Hope you enjoy the read.
Federico

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