"Life as a journey" is the most worn cliché. While it neatly maps onto certain segments – the structured steps of childhood, the intricate choreography of family, the deliberate pacing of a chosen path – as our existence unfolds, another metaphor emerges, more fluid and vibrant: the dance.
For life, in its fullness, is not a linear progression, but a dynamic interplay of currents, where unseen forces and new experiences guide our steps and shape our becoming. While we make choices and take actions, there's a deeper rhythm beneath the surface pushing us to adapt and evolve.
Life is Music, Life is a Dance
How can we find personal fulfillment in the midst of continuous turbulence?
Change is often presented as something that interrupts the linear path of life. But this is an erroneous and misleading representation.
Change is continuous.
Change is the norm, not the exception.
Change is everywhere and accelerating.
And this change is not only external. Our ”Self” constantly evolves as well, especially as we move into a new chapter of our life.
A New Chapter
This life transition harbors immense potential for growth, yet we are not necessarily equipped to navigate its challenges seamlessly. It's a terrain where success isn't a given, and the specter of failure looms large.
Our existence has evolved into a tapestry of complexity and fragility, making it all too easy to lose our bearings.
And yes, hard work, while commendable and necessary, no longer suffice to guarantee enduring wellness and success, no matter what we read online.
We need a strategy, a plan. And it all starts with a new story of purpose, joy and wellness.
“We tell ourselves stories in order to live…. We interpret what we see, select the most workable of the multiple choices.
We live entirely by the imposition of a narrative line upon disparate images, by the ‘ideas’ with which we have learned to freeze the shifting phantasmagoria which is our actual experience.”
Joan Didion, ”The White Album”
The Stories we tell
We are all creatures of stories. They weave the fabric of our understanding, shape our memories, and guide our actions. We learn through tales, remember through them, and build meaning around their narratives.
Stories also provide a bridge across the chasm in the brain, reconciling its yearning for order and coherence with its vital pulse for dynamism and transformation.
Beneath the surface of our conscious aspirations and desires lies a deeper, often unconscious, narrative. This "ghostwritten" story, formed in our early years by a combination of genetic and environmental factors, can become a cage, dictating our actions, limiting our potential and silently sabotage our current aspirations. The past is always present.
But what happens when the story we tell ourselves no longer serves us?
"Observe constantly that all things take place by change, and accustom thyself to consider that the nature of the Universe loves nothing so much as to change the things that are and to make new things like them"
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
The FM ROADMAP™
The power to rewrite our stories lies within. We can become conscious co-authors, recognizing the outdated scripts and crafting new ones. This process, like sculpting clay, requires both introspection and action.
As a catalyst for this transformation, I have developed an enhanced version of the ROADMAP® method, a scientific and systematic approach to navigating the intricate landscape of personal transformation. Through its seven integrated steps, you'll gain a deeper understanding of your agency, own your current narrative, and consciously design a future that aligns with your true aspirations.
By changing your story, you will change the way you see the world, the way you interact with it, and ultimately, the way you experience it.
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Are you now ready to realign with a new story of purpose, joy and wellness?
It is only when we accept the ineluctable presence of change, the ownership of our life story and the realization that happiness in life is not measured in "achievements" along a straight path, that we will have the opportunity to re-align our goals with our ideals, to become our purpose and to reach enduring wellness.
When this happens, change becomes the opportunity for growth we have been searching for, the catalyst for a permanent transformation.
The power of the transformative process is that there is no fixed destination, there are few limits to what can be achieved.
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