"Life as a journey" is a well-worn cliché.
While it neatly maps onto certain stages – the structured steps of childhood, the intricate choreography of family, the deliberate pacing of a chosen path – as our existence unfolds, another metaphor emerges:
Life as a Dance
If we approach life as an unfolding dance in a playful universe, its richness lies not in a distant past or future outcomes, but rather in the experience of the dance itself. This perspective reveals the flaw in thinking of change as something that interrupts the linear path of life. Change is an integral part of the choreography, the movement and the flow always shifting and evolving.
Yet, we are not necessarily equipped to navigate the challenges inherent in these passages, even when they harbor vast potential for growth. Success isn't guaranteed, and the specter of failure looms large. Our existence has evolved into a tapestry of complexity and fragility, making it all too easy to lose our bearings. And yes, hard work, while commendable and necessary, no longer ensure enduring wellness and success, no matter what we read online. We need a strategy, a plan.
And it all starts with a new story of purpose, joy and wellness.
“We tell ourselves stories in order to live…. We interpret what we see, select the most workable of the multiple choices.
We live entirely by the imposition of a narrative line upon disparate images, by the ‘ideas’ with which we have learned to freeze the shifting phantasmagoria which is our actual experience.”
Joan Didion, ”The White Album”
The Stories we tell
We are all creatures of stories. They weave the fabric of our understanding, shape our memories, guide our actions.
Stories also provide a bridge across the chasm in the brain, reconciling its yearning for coherence with its vital pulse for dynamism.
Beneath the surface of our conscious aspirations and desires lies a deeper, often unconscious, narrative. This "ghostwritten" story, formed in our early years by a combination of genetic and environmental factors, can become a cage, dictating our actions, limiting our potential and silently sabotage our current aspirations. The past is always present.
But what happens when the story we tell ourselves no longer serves us?
"Observe constantly that all things take place by change, and accustom thyself to consider that the nature of the Universe loves nothing so much as to change the things that are and to make new things like them"
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
The FM ROADMAP™
The power to rewrite our stories lies within. We can become conscious co-authors, recognizing the outdated scripts and crafting new ones. This process, like sculpting clay, requires both introspection and action.
I have developed an enhanced version of the ROADMAP® method, a scientific and systematic approach to navigate the intricate landscape of personal transformation. Through seven integrated steps, you'll gain a deeper understanding of your agency, own your narrative, and consciously design a future that aligns with your true aspirations.
Change your story, change how you see, interact and experience the world.
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