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Living Wide: Reclaiming the Second Half of Life
The second half of life demands a different kind of discernment. Not the kind that builds careers or balances ambition, but the kind that confronts what success has failed to resolve. By midlife, many high-functioning adults find themselves living inside narratives that no longer fit.
To live wide is to stop managing the arc and start reauthoring it. This isn’t about reinvention for its own sake. It’s about reclaiming the life that wants to be lived now. It’s the shift from an ethic of achievement to an ethic of amplitude.
The arrival of midlife
Midlife rarely announces itself with drama. More often, it enters like a subtle erosion, an accumulating sense that something vital has quietly slipped out of reach. Even high-functioning adults, those with carefully curated lives and visible markers of success, can find themselves unable to locate the desires that once drove them. In some cases, they’re not just unsure of what they want next, they can’t remember what they used to want.
This disorientation isn’t pathological. It’s not even exceptional. In fact, it’s a developmental inevitability, though our culture has no rite or roadmap for it.
During the first half of life, the imperative is clear: grow up! Construct a functional ego, master the codes of your culture, accumulate capital - symbolic, social, and financial. You learn to belong, to specialize, to perform. You become someone. If you succeed, the payoff is a stable, legible identity, a self that others can recognize, and that you can rely on to navigate the social world.
But that self, useful as it may be, is partial, provisional. It is a temporary scaffold, and Midlife is when the scaffolding starts to creak. The identity that once felt like solid ground begins to show its seams. Roles ossify. The rewards of performance dull. The future stops feeling like an obvious extension of the past. You begin to suspect that the person you’ve spent decades becoming is not the whole story - but you don’t yet know how to tell another one.
When the Story Isn’t Yours Anymore
What you call stagnation is often something deeper: the quiet recognition that you’re living inside a story you might not have consciously authored. That story may still function. It may look admirable from the outside. But inside, something vital is missing. It no longer feels lived, it feels maintained, based on old scripts shaped by family, culture, and the survival strategies you adopted long before you could choose them. They’re not wrong, but they are no longer yours.
This is not dysfunction. This is the beginning of authorship. This is asking, perhaps for the first time: Whose story is this?
The "Ethics of Amplitude"
Our culture prizes longevity, optimization, and self-preservation. But what if the deeper imperative is not to live longer, not to collect "successes", but to live wider, in what I call an "ethics of amplitude": the idea that a meaningful life is defined by how fully it is inhabited.
To live with amplitude is to orient not around survival, but around significance. It means privileging meaning over metrics, and choosing presence over permanence. A wide life isn’t maximized, it’s authored. It carries the texture of desire, the complexity of contradiction, and the courage to be reshaped by time rather than simply extended through it. In this context Midlife is not collapse. It’s exposure. And with that comes the pivotal question: Who now, apart from roles and history, do I choose to become in the second half of my adult life?
Why FM Transformational Coaching™ is Different
The ethics of amplitude isn’t a metaphor. It’s the foundation of this work. FM Transformational Coaching™ is not built for performative breakthroughs or weekend epiphanies. It’s not a sanctuary for vague affirmations, spiritual outsourcing, or the endless pursuit of optimization.
Instead, we work at the level where identity is structured: how you explain yourself to yourself. Together, we investigate which parts of that story were inherited, which were adaptive, and which are quietly asking to be dismantled or rewritten.
What you’ll find here is not ideology, but method. FM Transformational Coaching™ draws from depth psychology, narrative theory, symbolic systems, and neuroscience, not as decoration, but as integrated tools for reauthoring a life with coherence and agency.
At the center is the proprietary FM ROADMAP™, a structured, seven-step framework designed to help you exit the ghostwritten story and begin living one you’ve deliberately composed.
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Over the years we’ve developed two tailored coaching pathways into this process. Far from abstract models or idealistic notions, these approaches distill real-world insights gained from Federico’s journey across cultures, roles, and identities. Grounded in robust psychology and neuroscience, each pathway integrates rigorous methodology with the hard-earned wisdom of lived experience, ensuring an authentic, scientifically-informed framework for meaningful change.
- FM Ignition™, for those seeking focused momentum and rapid pattern disruption.
- FM Mastery™, for those ready to engage in a deeper reconstruction of identity and meaning.
Both approaches rely on the proprietary FM ROADMAP® process, a systematic method for reshaping the stories that govern how you see, act, and experience the world. Through its seven integrated steps, you'll gain a deeper understanding of your agency, own your current narrative, and consciously design a future that aligns with your true aspirations.
1. FM Ignition™
The 60-Day Catalyst for Change
FM Ignition™ targets individuals who need immediate clarity and actionable momentum. Ideal when life's roles, routines, or goals suddenly feel misaligned or constrictive, this focused 60-day process swiftly disrupts entrenched patterns, recalibrates priorities, and creates dynamic forward movement.
FM Ignition™ Solves:
- Stalled momentum and directionless routines.
- Feeling trapped in outdated life narratives.
- Immediate clarity and purpose realignment.
Outcomes:
- Disrupted self-limiting cycles.
- Clearer vision aligned with authentic priorities.
- Renewed energy and actionable next steps.
2. FM Mastery™
The Five-Month System to Redesign Your Life
FM Mastery™ addresses deeper transformation through sustained reflection, critical inquiry, and systematic redesign of life narratives. Suitable for those committed to profound identity reconstruction, this five-month intensive journey helps clients consciously dismantle obsolete narratives and build expansive, resonant life stories.
FM Mastery™ Solves:
- Deep-rooted self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviors.
- Prolonged dissatisfaction despite external success.
- Complex identity transitions requiring reflective recalibration.
Outcomes:
- A clearly defined, consciously chosen life narrative.
- Sustainable internal coherence and external alignment.
- Renewed engagement, clarity, and personal empowerment.
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Let’s begin with a 30-minute Zoom® conversation to discuss where you are, where you want to go, and how this coaching process can help you move forward with clarity and momentum.
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Life as Play
To live wide is to abandon the illusion of linear progress and embrace the improvisational nature of becoming, where meaning isn’t accumulated like milestones, but inhabited moment by moment.
"Life as a journey" is a well-worn cliché. It fits neatly with the early stages: childhood’s structured milestones, the careful choreography of family, the deliberate pacing of education and career. But as life unfolds, another metaphor feels more truthful: life as a dance. A dance has rhythm but no fixed route. It demands presence, responsiveness, and the courage to move even when the next step is uncertain.
Approaching life as an unfolding dance in a playful universe, its richness lies not in retracing a distant past or reaching some imagined future, but in inhabiting the movement itself.
Change, from this perspective, isn’t an interruption of life’s trajectory. It is the choreography, the flow and counterflow, the turns and pauses, always shifting, always evolving.
Yet even seasoned dancers lose their footing. The transitions that hold the greatest potential for growth often bring disorientation and resistance. Success isn’t guaranteed. Hard work, however relentless, no longer ensures wellness or fulfillment. In those moments, willpower alone isn’t enough. You need a new strategy, and a new story.
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